Keep throwing the spaghetti on the wall!

What??  Throw the spaghetti on the wall?  Yes! Keep throwing it on the wall.  One day it is going to stick! In case you haven’t heard about that before, when you cook pasta, you can toss a piece of spaghetti on the wall (or ceiling, if you are feeling feisty) and when it sticks, you know it is done.  I don’t think I would recommend throwing a lasagna noodle or manicotto on the wall. Although it would be impressive to see, it might leave a big glutenous smudge. Long spaghetti seems to be the best choice, or perhaps a delicate angel hair or hearty bucatini.  Once again, I digress.

Perriee and I have been tossing the spaghetti on the wall for a few years.  Most of the time, it falls off. Sometimes, it never even reaches the wall, but we have had a few small wins for sure.  Ok- maybe just one sizable one: Airbnb stuck. This is our 5th summer hosting! It is hard to believe we have been rolling with it this long.  I am hoping we can develop our space here a bit more so we can charge a little more and generate longer stays by offering the kitchen space for use.

One little project that slid down the wall was hosting dinner parties through a site called Feastly.  Although fun, it did not generate any income at all!  We made this amazing dinner with spaghetti and meatballs and homemade cheesecake.  It was delicious and our friends who came loved it, but it never stuck to the wall or generated any momentum outside of our close friends and family who both humored and honored us with their presence.  It did stick to my waistline. This side-hustle pre-dated our time hosting through Airbnb. The silver lining? It served as a bit of a catalyst to get the guest space together enough to show it off to strangers and the improvements haven’t stopped since. 

Cabin Corner

We installed the two back windows last weekend!  Hands down, one of the easiest and most rewarding projects we have done on the cabin so far.  Special thanks to Jonathan from MunozStuccoPA for helping is out with his awesome YouTube videos! The only installation flub we had was nailing the bottom flange all the way across, as opposed to leaving some extra gaps along the bottom for water to flow out, if needed.  That was all my bad. Perriee questioned it and I confidently responded on the contrary and we did not rewatch the video to confirm. As directed, we did NOT use the flashing tape along the bottom of the window.

Check out our thank you videos: Before

After:

These windows were ordered at the end of June and finally arrived the week prior to us installing them  As you can imagine, we were so excited to get them installed so that is exactly what we did. Since we ordered two of the same window, I assumed they would match.    Several minutes after we got the second one in, I noticed that they are different! Ha! There were only supposed to be 4 panes of glass on the top and bottom sections of the windows and one of them has 6 panes of glass on the bottom section! This is one of those things we will call good enough because they are not coming out again.  One of them will technically be in the bathroom and the other in the kitchen anyhow, so you will be less likely to notice from the inside of the house anyway. We are blaming this on Mercury in retrograde and Home Depot, of course.  

Regardless, the windows open, they have screens, and nothing can mess up the view you get while looking out of them.  It is beautiful. I watched some crows dancing in the woods from them the following morning. Overall, it was a huge win.

 

Homework

Keep tossing the pasta!  You can only hope you will end up with a wall-full, but realistically, most will not stick.  Don’t be afraid to try different types of pasta either- if you want to try blogging one day, then a basic website the next, do it.  The only thing that keeps you from succeeding is not trying. I have recently been listening to a couple of inspiring podcasts that have been getting my wheels turning to think of new ways to make money and getting the guts to try.  

Failing Forward is a Cinicnnati based podcast with the premise that even failures can lead to our successes.  In that respect, you should hope to fail at some things. Learn the lessons and move on. Use them as learning experiences to do different things the next time.  Keep tossing the pasta! 

The Side Hustle Show has over 300 episodes packed full of ideas and success stories of people who are now working for themselves.  One hot tip was to make a list of 50 ways to generate income for yourself. By the 50th one, you will have a list with at least a couple of ready to eat noodles.  And if you don’t? Well, make another list.  

The mousenest of the week…
We said goodbye to the hoosier cabinet in the tipi and found this bad-boy behind the bottom drawer. It was its own ecosystem (spool of thred for scale).

Happiness Engineers

Everytime we have friends and family together we get to see a bit of magic happen, and I have to admit that I get a bit of a high off of the feelings of love and smiles I get to see.  Just last weekend we got to break-in our cabin area with a proper gathering that was full of calm, comradery, food, and peace. Consequently, the world is in a state where we are in desperate need of as much love and happiness that is possible.  We need to keep recharging our souls so we can face each day out in the battlefield of life so we can return safely home to the those who would be lost without us: our partners, pets, children, parents, room mates- whoever.  

Perriee and I love hosting so much that we have both aspired to and succeeded, in some ways, at making it a part of our livelihood. We hope that we can continue to develop that aspect of our lives.  What better way to spend your time then to prepare for and then make others happy? After last weekend I could really envision that cabin space as a gathering place for many things: receptions, birthday parties, showers, team building, small conferences, fund raisers (wink wink, Crystal), anything.  

It would of course be a seasonal gig, with the hope being, that we could take off two or three months a year and recharge and travel and breathe.  Yep, that is crazy, but I don’t care. I am sure it is possible if we choose that life for ourselves. It would take a lot of planning and financial discipline, but we can do it.  Those are two of our very strong points. This idea of working several months, then taking time off has been in my mind a lot lately.  Originally, it occured to me that I could probably do anything long-term, if i knew i got to take significant amounts of time off. I thought, if only my job now offered that option. Sadly, I understand that piece is actually highly unlikely.  Don’t get me wrong, I appreciate the requirement to work for money, and I believe as humans, we have innate drives to be useful and productive. I just don’t think we should all have to do it so much. I digress…

I know I have mentioned this before, but currently, we are hosting our second level of our city home through Airbnb.  We have been doing it since 2015 and still take great care to ensure our guests feel welcome and comfortable and special when they stay here.  We hope to expand our services to the tipi soon as well. We would only offer it when we are there, but we can already imagine the experience we want our guests to feel while visiting us there.  It is a special space.  

We are going to paint the sleeping pallet space and take out the hoosier cabinet which will be replaced with a wash area.  The floor is already prepped for water, so we should go with it! We will install a shower pan and which will be “plumbed” out the back of the tipi where we have already have a drainage ditch. Toss in a nice shower chair and a wash basin, and voila! You have a bathing area. There will be a gas grill, available to cook on, the fire pit, and the most beautiful night sky you could ask for.  Perfecto!  

Homework: Have a party! 

Aside from the money and the happiness factors, there are bonuses to sharing your personal space with folks.  It forces you to show off your good side. It helps you reset your environment. Friends once shared a funny meme with me in advance of one of them getting ready for a party:  Clean like it looks like no one lives here! One a year is a good way to give you a reason to clean the baseboards or dust the top of the refrigerator and toss out the old mail that has been piling up.  Some people don’t need a party as an excuse, but I do and the reward is always sweet.  

Hosting with Airbnb forces us to keep our home in the best shape possible, both functionally and aesthetically.  If it doesn’t look good and deliver, folks won’t want to stay here. I wish i could put more into it then we already have, but over the years I feel like Perriee and I have managed to keep it looking fresh, whether it be by buying new towels or a new area rug or redoing the bathroom (which we are very proud of, by the way). Then in the space we have, which can be see by our guests, we keep our junk piles to a minimum and make sure it is ready to look at should someone want to peek at while here.  I look forward to bringing this process to the tipi. It keeps us looking good which feels good to us too.  

To host an event at the cabin  will push it all to another level.  In the meantime, I will keep mapping it out in my mind.  So far, it looks amazing.

You might not be able to buy happiness, but you sure can create it. 

Putting up walls while breaking them down.

The last time we were able to visit the a-frame and tipi we started putting up the exterior wall on the tall side of the cabin, which is the side of the house with sleeping loft and kitchen/bathroom. So far, Perriee and I don’t feel too pressed to move at lightning speed to complete the a-frame since it is staying pretty dry inside. This way, we can take our time, get things right, and customize the shit out of it!

It really blows my mind how much we have learned in the last year to do just that. For example, we were able to figure out the exact measurements of how to cut the plywood at an angle based on our experience with the cabin plans.That step alone would have sent my mind into a tizzy merely months ago. Here is a list of what we got done in the day and some change that we were there:

We removed the Tyvek wrap that we had tacked up on the outside wall and took down the tarp that was hanging up in the inside.

Blocking was put up to allow us a substrate to attach the plywood to since our studs did not quite reach the top of the rest of the frame.

We cut and installed two rows of plywood on the outside wall with our amazing new folding extension ladder.

We hung up the bottom two rows of Tyvek on top of the plywood we put up.

A third row of Tyvek wrap was tacked up to temporarily cover part of what has not yet been completed and we rehung the tarp on the inside of the cabin for the time being.

The next two rows of plywood on that side are going to be a little tricky since they are up quite a bit higher, but we think we have a plan for it. We will also be prepping to install the solar fan, which will attach above one of the windows on that side of the house.

While those walls are going up, we had to skip a weekend out at our spot to go to Georgia for our friends’ wedding and to watch some walls get broken down. Except for ours, I have not been to any other queer folks’ wedding ceremonies and I had quite an epiphany while watching through my tears from the doorway at the back of the venue with about twenty other guests, standing, because the room was packed with their friends and loved ones coming to watch their profession of love towards one another.

The epiphany I experienced had to do with the importance of the Obergefell_v._Hodges Supreme Court decision in 2015, which gave same sex couples the right to legally marry. Queer people have been having commitment ceremonies for years, but our decision to unite our lives really did stem from a lot of the legal benefits of being married too, and I suspect that a lot more same sex couples are taking this big step for similar reasons. It gives us the rights to care for one another in ways that would otherwise be denied to us in the times we need it most: in sickness and death.

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All weddings are full of the people who the couple loves so dearly: best friends and family. The ones who make life worth living. That is why they were invited and that is likely why they come to witness the union of the couple getting married- because they love at least one of those two people just the same. What is extra special about a queer wedding is that sometimes, people who come to witness the union might be a little unsure of how these two people of the same gender could possibly fit together in such a way to represent marriage. They have ideas of how a marriage should look, based on their life experience and just don’t quite understand it. But they come regardless because they love one of those two people.

Then the magic happens. The guests start to trickle in, all of them there to support the spouse’s to be. Some are local, some come from far away. The officiant exclaims the couple’s love to the crowd and then the couple exclaims their love to one another. They tell their witnesses how they promise to love and support one another through the best and the worst of times. Then, come the speeches, when the newlyweds’ friends talk about how these two people fell so perfectly in step with one another and how they have never seen them so happy as they have been in their lives as they are with this person.

That is when the walls start to crumble. The mortar of skepticism falls to the ground. First, just dust, then in chunks, then you see the bricks falling out. Those people who came because they love one of those people now find themselves there for both of them.  They are touched with the sunshine of love that is peeking through where a wall once stood.

Then all of the guests go home and the new couple begins their lives together, doing the same things couples have done for a millennia. They go to work, they love, they cry, they sweat together, and they laugh together, just like all married couples do. But the people who were not too sure when they came to that wedding? They do something a bit more profound. They go home and tell one person about that weird wedding while they are still freshly bathed in the love they witnessed between those two people. They chip away at someone else’s wall without either them even realizing it.

See, love can change the world.

Homework

Celebrate.  It’s Pride Month!  Even if you don’t think you have a queer friend or family member, statistics will prove you incorrect!  If you are not LGBTQXYZ, you can still celebrate. Wear a rainbow lapel pin. Fly a rainbow flag. Go to a parade.  The people who might be hiding in fear will see you and it could change their life to know you might be there for them. Most of all, to me anyway, it is a celebration of love.  Love one another. It can change the world.

November 12, 2016