We had about 24 hours at the homestead this week and it was great! Dad drove in for the night and instead of cramming in as much work as possible in that time, we actually built a fire and relaxed around it. The first thing we did upon arrival was check to see if the cabin was dry inside. It was. At that moment, the list I had composed in my head for what I wanted to accomplish that day flew right out of the holes that are going to have a window in them one day (soon). We are fully aware that building walls and installing the windows and door are a priority, but we also feel like we can take our time a bit on the next steps and we have such a tight schedule sometimes, so it was wonderful to take a day to cook and just hang out. Those moments are precisely the reason we are doing this for so I am happy with myself for taking it in.
Ok, so I did a little work. I swept some of the nails and dust up in the cabin since the last time we were there it was more of a wet mud than dry dirt. We laid out an indoor/outdoor mat and laid out the guest mattress for its inaugural sleep.
Perriee and I made a fire in the tipi, then we made some grilled cheese and tomato soup on the stove. That took a while, so while lunch cooked, we made the outdoor fire. Once lunch was done, I started dinner, because you know, cast iron cooking can be slow. I mixed meatloaf and cooked potatoes and sipped on beer while Perriee kept the fire going.
Dad and I fixed some Tyvek wrap on the front wall since it was flapping a little too much in the breeze. That stuff is so loud! We were worried it would keep him up, but it took no time to tack it down with the stapler. After dinner, we relaxed again. It eventually started to rain, so we took our chairs into the cabin and sat for a bit to listen to the rain. It was a perfect moment. Perriee and I eventually went to the tipi and had a great night’s rest with a peaceful mind and body. We did not break our backs that day.
We had breakfast in the morning and dad hit the road. I shook out some zinnia seeds around the tipi and we packed up and left to spend Mother’s Day with Ms.Gwen. My only critique about the weekend was that it went too fast. We will be back in a week or so to work on those walls. In the meantime, it will have to do.
Homework: Give yourself a break.
I am guilty of sticking to deadlines and working my hardest to get a job done. Perriee and I have consistently worked on something almost every time we go to the farm, whether it be clearing out some honeysuckle or taking the next step in our homestead build. I tend to have guilt if we go there without a plan. Perriee is so supportive in my restlessness. We have got a lot accomplished in the two years since we have been working on things but we have admittedly spent little time relaxing there.
My feelings to move forward so hard and fast with the cabin are partly related to my drive to move into our “early retirement” stage of life. We want to spend time together now, not in twenty years. When we move into this phase, it will not be to do nothing, but to do something meaningful and fulfilling all day, every day, together. The things we are able to do accomplish in the time we have together now is amazing. I can’t wait to see what we will do when we have even more time together.
Give yourself a break. We can all be our toughest boss and you can push yourself into endless overtime, whether it be from your full time job or your hobbies, or your long term goals. Make sure you are fitting in the time to spend with those who mean the most. I can’t remember the last time dad and I had that much quiet time together. It was something I will remember forever. I feel like a broken record saying this, but it is worth repeating: you only get one life. Spend it wisely. We did last weekend, hanging out with dad.